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Is blood really thicker than water?

There is a popular German proverb "blood is thicker than water" and it means that, blood relations are supposed to come first in your life, they are supposed to be more important than people you are not related to by blood. Such as friendship. It means bonds of family are more stronger than bonds of unrelated people.
In the world we are born into, God gives us guides that show us the ropes. Since many of them have been here longer (i.e. Our Parents, Aunts, Uncles) we often seek guidance from them from diaper to adulthood. Whether with issues of dating, paying a bill when we have run out of money, or some wise words to help you through a crisis, we all expect, if anyone, that our family would be the one to help us through because we are flesh and blood, and they love us... right?


What is going through my mind at the moment is, whether is this really true? Whether blood is really thicker than water? Especially in this time and age. I was thinking about this the whole night and today. This was in my mind and this is the reason why I couldn't sleep as well. This proverb insinuates that relatives stick together and relatives will do more for you than others.

I am debating in my mind whether to do this argumentatively or whether to be biased and write this blog entry in the opinionated fashion. My heart says this is not true. Blood is not thicker than water, especially these days. My experience says this too. However, the logic behind this proverb is something that should be explored and written about, my mind tells me. Anyway a good writer explores both sides of the coin and then states his/her opinion, instead of completely ignoring the other side of something.

For this proverb to work, the word "CONNECTION" comes in to the equation. Without connection, this proverb would crumble in to dust and fade away. Any relation is based on connection. You are connected to your mother for instance, by birth and also if you are lucky, you have a connection of trust and love. The word relationship only has substance on the basis of the word connection. No connection equals to no relationship. No relationship would just be like, you don't know the person.


 
So to a certain extent we have established how important CONNECTION is. What my point is and what point I am trying to make is, connection is more important than whether you have blood ties with a person or not. If you are related by blood, but are not connected with the person, you and the person don't understand each other, in your time of need, the blood relative doesn't help you out, then how can the proverb 'blood is thicker than water' work?

In this case this proverb has already been disproved to a certain extent. Blood is not thicker than water, not always any way.


I myself feel connected to certain people so much, that sometimes I wish they were my family. I wish someone was my sister. We all have this wish in our minds and hearts, about certain people that we connect and bond with so well. A best friend perhaps, who is even though not connected to us by blood, still holds an essential place in our hearts. We still think of that person as a sister or a brother in our minds. I have felt this way about someone. That this person should have been my sister. Then I thought, no she should not. Why? My current siblings who are related to me by blood are not connected to me at all.

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